Hold That Door!

Simply, etiquette means treating others the same way you want to be treated. But learning etiquette rules can mean much more than this. Proper etiquette helps us identify with important emotions like empathy, sympathy, and compassion. When we are polite to others, we acknowledge that they are important and have the same feelings as we do. With this in mind, we will discuss the reasons why certain conventions of etiquette really help us identify with these emotions. Holding the Door When you are going through a door, especially in a public place, look behind you to see if someone is about to go through the door immediately after you. If so, once you are through the door, step aside and hold the door open for the person behind you. It does not matter if it is a male or a female. It is just a nice thing to do for anyone. If you are entering a door then you'll hold it and let those behind you go through first. The kindness shown takes only a few second of time and makes others feel good. Holding doors for others reminds us that it's important to care for one another. It's an acknowledgement that we are all in this together.

Looking People in the Eye

Simply, etiquette means treating others the same way you want to be treated. But learning etiquette rules can mean much more than this. Proper etiquette helps us identify with important emotions like empathy, sympathy, and compassion. When we are polite to others, we acknowledge that they are important and have the same feelings as we do. With this in mind, we will discuss the reasons why certain conventions of etiquette really help us identify with these emotions. Looking People In The Eye Eyes are known as the window to the soul. Emotions are often easy to read if you can see someone's eyes. When someone speaks to you it is a matter of respect to answer and look at her in the eye. If you shift your gaze to the ground or the side, you give the impression you are deceptive or can't be trusted. While this perception may not be fair, you can practice looking people in the eye. When you go to the grocery store and are checking out with a clerk, look him in the eye when you give your credit card or cash. Consciously look friends in the eye when you are speaking with them. You can learn this habit and it will make you seem more sincere when you meet new people.

Why We Don't Interrupt

Simply, etiquette means treating others the same way you want to be treated. But learning etiquette rules can mean much more than this. Proper etiquette helps us identify with important emotions like empathy, sympathy, and compassion. When we are polite to others, we acknowledge that they are important and have the same feelings as we do. With this in mind, we will discuss the reasons why certain conventions of etiquette really help us identify with these emotions. DON'T INTERRUPT hen you interrupt someone, you are implying that you are more important than the other person. You also suggest your thoughts are more valuable than others. Waiting until the other person has finished talking let's him know you respect and value him. If something is so urgent that you must interject (There is an emergency!), then touch the person you wish to speak with and say excuse me, wait for acknowledgement, and then proceed. When you do this, you ask permission to break into the conversation and still honor the person speaking.

Using Emotional Intelligence

You must use emotional intelligence to get the best out of people. To get someone's best, you must motivate them. Motivation comes in many forms, such as recognition, responsibility and achievement. Knowing how to motivate effectively requires you to use emotional intelligence, an ability to manage yourself and relationships through self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and social skill. Through self-awareness, you can accurately evaluate your own strengths and limitations and understand your own emotions. Effective self-management allows you the ability to manage yourself and your responsibilities so that you are trusted by others. Social awareness enables you to understand others perspectives and meet the needs of an organization’s constituents. Finally, social skill empowers you to influence and develop others in alignment with the vision of the organization. You can use emotional intelligence to determine which leadership styles will work to achieve an organization’s goals and best motivate your employees. One example - Your report at work does great work, never complains, and is always reliable. Using emotional intelligence, a manager may know what motivates this worker - is it desire for more money, desire for public recognition, is it a mere thank you? Knowing those that work with you and finding the right motivation will continue to keep your organization progressing!

Power of Please and Thank You

Simply, etiquette means treating others the same way you want to be treated. But learning etiquette rules can mean much more than this. Proper etiquette helps us identify with important emotions like empathy, sympathy, and compassion. When we are polite to others, we acknowledge that they are important and have the same feelings as we do. With this in mind, we will discuss the reasons why certain conventions of etiquette really help us identify with these emotions. PLEASE AND THANK YOU When you say "please", you acknowledge you are asking someone for something that you are not necessarily entitled to. It signals respcet and conveys you idnefity that person as at least an equal, rather than implying that he is a servant and required to do what you ask. In the same way, once the request is honored and fulfilled, saying thank you or writing a thank you note implies gratitude for the act. "Thank you" is derived from the word "think." You are basically saying "I will remember what you have done". So it important that adults show children these conventions. They will go a long way to help remove from us any sense of entitlement that rarely serves anyone well.

Team Building (continued)

A good leader will not inject himself and his specific desires into every team he creates. By the time of most team’s first assembly, often a leader already has made numerous decisions about the work the team will conduct, the resources it will have at its disposal, and the people who will comprise the team. A good leader will give his guidance at the outset of the team building process but will allow the team its own gestation period to do its goal setting and determination about the work and resources it needs. Knowing when to step in and assist a team at the right times will be in the skillset of a great leader. When an organization has well-formed teams there is individual team member satisfaction and growth, as well as collective goal achievement. Successful teams lead to successful leaders when they can accomplish the strategy and vision they have outlined for an organization through those teams.

Team Building (continued)

When working in teams, a good leader must allow for team processing of the problem to be resolved. Processes allow a team time for decision making, communication, participation, and interpersonal team management. Time for a team to bond and establish its structure and norms will allow for effective team processing. When the inputs of a team are well planned and the team has time for all necessary processes, a cohesive, functional team results. If this time is not allowed, people will feel isolated and unappreciated and the team will have no cohesion.