Five Introduction Goofs to Avoid

Most introduction mistakes are the result of normal-and forgivable-memory lapses or nervousness. But the foul-ups below result primarily from insensitivity and tactlessness. Don’t: 1) Look Away. People who look over shoulders and around the room while involved in introductions are saying in every way that they don’t really care very much. 2) Make too-personal comments. Divorces, bereavements, job losses, illnesses, rehab history, and the like are not fit subjects to raise in the course of social and business introductions. Ask about family, not spouse. 3) Interrupt. When people are engaged in serious conversation or obviously occupied, don’t break in to introduce someone else. Wait for a more convenient moment. 4) Defer to one person at the expense of the other. Be sure that both parties are included in any conversation that follows a polite introduction. 5) Gush. Most people are embarrassed by overly enthusiastic introductions. A note to would-be matchmakers: While you may think that two eligible people would be perfect couple, avoid exaggerated praise when you introduce them. Flattery is a sign of insincerity.