Compliments That Count - Be Sincere/Don't Manipulate

Don't be someone who gives compliments so frequently that they mean nothing to the recipient. Be judicious in giving compliments, and when you do, mean it. Others know when you are faking it. Also don't be a manipulator when you give compliments - i.e. giving a compliment to motivate something you value v. something actual valuable. For example, a co-worker will know when you are trying to manipulate future behavior by saying "It was so good to see you in the office early today." T hey know you would like them to show up earlier but is that the valuable thing? Likley not. Likely it is the work that would happen during this time. You can be more subtle and more effective in your compliment if you notice specific activity. "I noticed you were working hard on the ABC project early today. Thank you. How is that coming?" This alternative will lead people to be engaged and will also let them know you appreciate their hard work. It also makes bosses realize what is the valuable activity. Presence is not valuable - it is the hard work when present and that is what we want to encourage.